Assessing the damage

I will not cause pain without allowing something new to be born says the lord. 

   Isaiah 66:9

Assessing your damage to know your worth is perhaps the biggest hurdle in healing. People who have gone through many hard trials in life are often labeled as damaged goods. Like a can in the grocery store, if it’s damaged it’s labeled at a lower price for its damage. But did those dents in the can lessen the value of what’s inside? No. You may be battered and bruised but you’re value has not changed. I had a conversation with someone recently, we were discussing past relationships and he said “wow you’re pretty damaged, you’ll probably take it out on the next guy”. I was kind of offended because I am damaged, but I know what’s damaged me, and I know who had hands in that. The people who have had hands in the hurt will never have that same power again. It’s up to me to determine who and what I allow power to. 

Being damaged isn’t always a bad thing, it gives you character where most other people do not have it. It allows you to feel on other levels. That’s ok, and you do not have to apologize for it. Asses the damage you’ve been through, and use it to build your worth. I’m not sorry for the things I’ve been through making me a more emotional person. I feel everything and that makes me a gifted person. It allows me to relate to people on levels some may not. Just like your “damage”  can make you gifted. If you’re able to take even a quarter of any damage you’ve been through and make yourself better, you’re already winning.